Have you ever wondered why you attract a certain type of person? Have you ever looked in the mirror and expressed displeasure with what you saw? Have you ever said I am not good enough for that job so there is no sense in me trying for it?

All of these are examples of a person that radiates negative energy. You may find it very demanding and very energy draining to be in the presence of someone that emits negative energy. What can you do about it?

Certain people give off positive energy, others negative. It's the quality of someone's being. It also reflects the inner work they've done, their efforts to heal anger, hatred, or self-loathing, which poison us like toxic fumes. Energetically these linger, precluding joy from shining through.

Signs of Positive Energy in People

• They exude an inviting sense of heart, compassion, and support.
• You intuitively feel safe, relaxed, wanting to get closer.
• They emanate a peaceful glow.
• You feel better around them. Your energy and optimism increase.

Signs of Negative Energy in People

• You experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted, or attacked.
• You intuitively feel unsafe, tense, or on guard.
• You sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can't wait to get away from them.
• Your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill.

When I was growing up and even now, within seconds of meeting someone, I knew whether or not I liked them. This wasn't about looks or how nice a person seemed and it would happen before we exchanged a word. We need to remember that people aren't always as they appear. Sensing energy reveals a fuller picture. I don't care how intelligent or attractive someone is on paper, if he/she zaps your energy, they are not for you.

How to Change Negative Thought Patterns into Positive Energy

1. Stop embellishing the worst case scenario. "If I don’t ace this presentation, I'll get fired." Your habit is to predict the absolute worst outcome; everything is a potential disaster. "Everything will be ruined if they don't show up on time." Every mole is a sign of cancer, every headache a brain tumour. Those are not positive thoughts that will help you achieve your goals.

2. Make thoughts positive and focus on good things. When someone compliments you, revel in the feeling. Enjoy feeling flattered, and shrug off that negative energy. Positive thoughts will help you achieve your goals.

3. Stop mind reading, especially when you're plagued by negative thinking! "I don't care what you say; I know what you're thinking. You think I'm stupid!" "They all hate me." You think you know what others are thinking or feeling, regardless of what they say. This is negative energy that blocks positive thoughts. Let go of negative energy and make positive thoughts work for you.

4. Make thoughts positive by accepting who you are. Wait and see what happens. Was it Mark Twain who said that most of the things he worried about never happened? You don't know if you'll miss the flight, you don't know if you'll get the job – so don't indulge in negative energy until you have to. Positive thoughts help you achieve your goals if you focus.

5. Your negative energy is a depressing filter. Positive energy and positive thoughts will refresh and revitalize you. Create positive energy by being rational. Arguments can be healthy ways of learning more about yourself and your partner. Positive thoughts put life in perspective.

Believe it or not, as human beings, we are transmitting positive or negative energy all the time. According to the law of attraction… those who are transmitting positive energy will attract positive things; likewise those who are transmitting negative energy will attract negative people.

Life is too short… why focus and waste our energy on negativity? Why not focus our energy on more positive things? You can train your mind to focus on positivity rather than negativity. As part of the work that we do with people to make them successful, TalentC explores their positive and negative energy. Look in the mirror and tell me what you see. Is that someone that you would want to be associated with?